It is a publish about attempting and failing. And attempting once more, and failing once more. Attempting and failing so typically, in reality, that I’ve forgotten what number of instances makes an attempt I’ve made. In some methods, it is a publish about meditation (and I’ve written just a few of these posts earlier than). But it surely’s additionally a publish about being resilient, and staying open minded. Most significantly, it’s concerning the invaluable lesson I discovered on the subject of psychological well being. If at first you don’t succeed…nicely, it may not at all times work. However typically attempting once more may be simply what you want.
The inspiration for this publish was reflecting on my relationship with meditation. The best way I view meditation has ebbed and flowed through the years. After I first heard about it, I hoped and praying I’d discovered a approach to clear up my nervousness. I learn up on the advantages of meditation, the worth and significance of the follow. I listened to individuals discuss mindfulness and provides recommendation, and I discovered what I may.
I did my finest to study what I may about meditation and the primary time I made a decision to present it an actual strive, I failed. Spectacularly, I’d add. It put me extra on edge, and made me even angrier at myself. It was having the other impact, and this primary try didn’t final lengthy. I left meditation alone for some time after that. I attempted different issues to handle my melancholy and nervousness, doing my finest to develop my psychological well being toolboox.
However at the least as soon as (typically twice) a yr, I might attempt to come again to meditation. And it was a wrestle for me each. Single. Time. In actual fact, it wasn’t till final yr – after 9 years of experiencing melancholy and nervousness – that meditation turned a part of my each day follow. And even that course of continues to be ongoing, greater than a yr later.
There will probably be different posts the place I mirror on the specifics round my journey with meditation. In the present day, although, I wish to concentrate on my mindset. After I first discovered about meditation, I used to be excited. I believed it will be an necessary a part of my psychological well being toolkit.
Because it seems I used to be proper, however not for the explanations I believed. The primary cause I needed to enhance at meditation was that I believed it will assist me “get rid” of my psychological sickness. If I may conquer mindfulness, I may cease my melancholy. And this problematic assumption didn’t clear up a factor.
I wouldn’t say that it was my resiliency that led me again to meditation again and again. I felt resilient, however that wasn’t the principle motivation in coming again to it. What pulled me again in was the concept that I’d had the unsuitable mindset about meditation in earlier makes an attempt. And that’s the lesson I’ve discovered again and again in a decade of residing with nervousness and melancholy.
There’s a well-known saying: “if at first you don’t succeed, strive, strive once more,” that I’d like so as to add to. If at first you don’t succeed, strive, strive once more – and if attempting time and again isn’t working, that’s okay. However that what may not be just right for you at present could possibly be one thing that works for you sooner or later. We’re at all times altering and at all times evolving, and our psychological well being may be the identical means. Typically, attempting once more is precisely what you want. Right here’s hoping that second (or third, or fourth) strive works in your favor.
Now I wish to hear from you! What’s one thing that took you awhile to study, or took a while earlier than you discovered success? Have you ever ever succeeded at one thing after failing prior to now? I wish to know! Let me know within the feedback under.
